Our Love Story Begins Today

They suck. A lot of people suck. That’s why it’s even more important that we don’t suck. It can be easy to see others take advantage of the system and feel like suckers that we don’t, but that’s okay. They already have their reward. Ours will be in the future. Even if we don’t get an actual reward, there’s always the reward of knowing we did the right thing and set a good example for others, especially Vinh. TLG!!!

My intentions to be healthy or plentiful, but the results are not good. Another reason why I believe that results are important. It’s nice if intentions and results are both good. But in my opinion, if I can only pick one, I want good results.  I was thinking about telling you to appreciate my fatness because you’re not gonna see it in the future, but then I thought I could also die 😂. Anyhow, I’m gonna be better. #results

I’m trying to get some work in, but it looks like Vinh is gonna through a wrench into my plans. I plan to sleep by midnight so I guess I’ll just have to work during normal hours. But I was really hoping to get this project off my desk early tomorrow, but it may take longer than I planned. Maybe you’ll be able to feed him tomorrow. But I’m guessing probably not. It really is the worst schedule, but it is what it is. TLG!!!

I hope you never feel like I take work over family. As you probably know and realize, work is necessary to make money in order to provide for living. Sometimes I work during “off” hours, but I can promise that time is more than offset by the freedom not to work during “on” hours. Not that I cared about to or planned on asking for it, but I get a free day off for this partial day of work. #IML

It makes the dream work. Assuming your teammate(s) don’t suck. Peter and Lorraine are good teammates. They both keep me fed too. Very lucky to have good teammates in life. No one can do it alone. I’m also a good teammate too, so everyone is lucky to have me on their team. 😂 

I’ve been meaning to talk further about the whole sex thing, but it seems to never be time. I don’t recall your reasoning for being opposed to oral sex, but I don’t feel like finding a priest to agree that it’s okay is really the solution. I think it’s like abortion and gays, the church is against it, but you make your own opinion on whether you agree or not.  I guess it bothers me because I feel like my opinion doesn’t matter, but other people’s opinion does. So if it takes a priest to approve it, I’d rather not have it. I’ll learn to be okay without it. I also want you to understand that no matter what you decide, the consequences (known or unknown) are your responsibility. I’m reminded of Trang blaming Nick for selling the house. I don’t want the priest or me or Vinh being blamed for your choices. I don’t mean that in a mean way or anything. Just wanted to note this since it’s been on the back burner for a while. Now that I’ve said it, we don’t need to talk about it unless you w...

Looks like you got some extra cash today: Didn’t require any OT. Sorry you didn’t get any today. Hopefully this makes up for it. There’s still Powerball, SuperLotto, and Fantasy 5. #noscratchers

I was thinking today in the shower, I know you wish I didn’t yell at you, but is there anything else? I was thinking that I’m doing a good job of being a good husband and father, but I know I can be better as well. For the record, I think you’re a good mother to Vinh and a good wife. But you can do both better too. Hopefully you’re not content with being good. ATEN!!!

Sorry, we didn’t win the lottery. There’s another chance tonight. You use these things? I know people do, but I’m not a fan. I prefer floss.  Anyhow, this morning, I felt kind of bad for Vinh since he was sick. That’s the other reason I let him eat fish and grapes and fruit pouch for lunch. Hopefully he won’t have a stomach ache, but I wanted him to be happy and have some food in his belly. #badbreakfast

I know it’s “probably” never gonna happen, but I still have to hold out hope and try to win the lottery. One of the reasons is because I want to help people. Contrary to what you may think, I think it’ll make people and our own lives better, not worse. If this wins big, I can share with Mary and you since you guys are the reason for our trip to Florida. It would give us an excuse to go back soon too. I’ll even toss in some money to Vinh for his suffering. 🍀 

I failed. Bet on sports today and loss. I was listening to a podcast about cravings, but I don’t think the advice worked for me. It made swimming a little sad, but it was still fun. Although I’m currently down like $30 at MJ. Still top ranked thought. Can I swim tomorrow from 3-8PM? But back to my failure. I will do better. Swear!!

Glad I don’t have to go into the office today. I really should be working hard, but I’ve decided to take a break and probably work this weekend.  I actually wanted to work a little, but it doesn’t seem like I was successful. Kind of a wasted day, but deserved since I worked pretty hard this week. Hopefully I will be able to work this weekend. It’s gonna be another busy week…

Can’t expect other people to change. We can only change ourselves and how we respond to others.  Time to be our best selves. Can’t let myself go in case anything happens. Gonna start taking better care of myself. YDY and IDM. 

You didn’t start the dishwasher. But it’s not your fault because you probably didn’t know that I was waiting for you to make sure you didn’t have any last minute items and since you’re the last person down there, you may have noticed it wasn’t running. I won’t make that assumption in the future. I verbalized, but I also want it documented, that having additional kids and fulfilling my sexual needs are decisions I’m leaving to you. I just don’t want to be blamed for the results. At the end of the day, I hope you’re able to take responsibility for your actions and not blame others. I’ve always said, sometimes we may not no the consequences of our actions, but we are still responsible for them. That’s how I see my relationship with life. I live it in a way that I’m will not regret. If there is a God and my actions are deemed unfit for the afterlife, I’m okay with that. I hope you will be too. We can’t always rely on others to give us answers and if they do, we’re still responsible for our...

Sometimes if there’s no temptation, there’s no issue. But other times we have to learn to overcome temptation.  Today I was looking for some candy in my desk. There was none there. Not sure if someone ate it or if I took it.  I made up for it when I got home. WWW

I’d like to get some work done tonight. Hopefully I’ll be able to. There’s a lot to do. It’s like the old days. But now I’m exempt. Before I had to sneak my extra work to avoid trouble. Sometimes I feel like maybe this is a cycle where I’m making up for all the down time I’ve had. Kinda sucks. Hence why I wish life would be boring without all the ups and down. #steady

Your least favorite part, but it’s a necessary step. I hope you had a good time.  I prefer to drive at night, but you have to work early tomorrow and I also have to work so it’s gonna suck, but it is what it is. TLG!!!

Means Down To F*ck. Are you happy we f*cked with it? It’s too bad we didn’t hang around Long Beach as we might have been able to run the errands today and not have been so busy Saturday. You’re kind of weak sauce, but maybe you’d like disc golf. It’s much easier to start this than golf and it’s also free after you buy the discs. Thanks Alex.

Did you enjoy your pho? I enjoyed mine. The teas were a bonus. However, I wish the noodles were a little firmer. Interesting place to find a pho joint. Nice food hall. I would eat the other foods. Looked good. Maybe next time. Vinh isn’t going to sleep, www. Bye chat. 🐱 

It’s been years since I’ve felt overwhelmed by work. And it’s been so long that I’ve had “work/life balance”. Not sure how to adjust to this, but it’s probably gonna require me to put in more hours outside the “9-5”. Now that I’m exempt, I’m wondering if this is the balancing out. Much like dad keeps getting his EBT money stolen, wonder if that makes up for all the crap I did, but it wouldn’t make sense for him to be punished. Does life really balance out? 🤔 

Vinh was eating fried rice this morning and this is what’s he spit out. He’s pretty aware. It makes it easier if you break really small. Took about 30 minutes to feed him. Fun times. 

Sometimes it’s important to be focused. Other times it’s important to multitask. Wisdom is knowing when to do what. Maybe that’s why people pray for wisdom. Knowledge isn’t relevant if one doesn’t know how to use it. Folding origami dollars, listening to a podcast, and blogging are okay together. Caring for Vinh should be a singularly focused activity. 🤔 

When you wanted to have a child, you forced me to have sex, even when I was tired. We have sex before and after church. When you used to love me the most, you said you’d do anything to keep me. Your actions are different based on your motivation. Now you had your wedding and have your child, it doesn’t seem like I’m necessary anymore. I got used to you taking care of me, but it doesn’t seem like you have the same motivation anymore. You can blame me because you think I’m different, but maybe your priorities have changed. I dunno, but I can’t keep doing the same thing and expect different results. So to help change things up, you don’t need to worry about me. Just focus on yourself and Vinh. I’ll figure out how to get by. 

- We’re late to church again? - You forgot your phone at the Airbnb? - You didn’t sit somewhere where I could easily find you? - You didn’t sit in the family room? - Why did you put the fuller wipe pack in the backpack? Maybe I don’t really understand. What sins did you confess yesterday? What is your belief in God? It just doesn’t seem like you’re really living the faith. I understand that it’s okay to pick and choose what we believe in, but it just seems like you want to pick and choose only the things that benefit you. If it doesn’t benefit you, then you don’t believe?  Actions have consequences, part of me is tempted to just go back to the Airbnb and see what you do. But I don’t want Vinh to suffer. But maybe his suffering will motivate you to be better? I don’t know what motivates you anymore. Maybe you should tell me. I’m sooooo annoyed right now. FFFFFF!!!

Today you were talking to Mary about your mom and it was word for word how I feel about you. You like sweet things, but when other people are sweet to you it’s only a few minutes, but I have to be there everyday all time.  No one else does the stuff I do for you. And yet you don’t cut me any slack. You are truly just like your mom. Crazy. Also, it’s not that I don’t like you doing certain things. It’s just that you’re not efficient at them and time isn’t something we have a lot of. You seem to like Mary and respect her opinions. Maybe you should take to heart some of the things she says. 

Did you hear that poor baby screaming on the first leg of our trip? I guess we should be happy that wasn’t Vinh. It’s too bad that Southwest isn’t always an option when we fly. It’s probably the best for him even with the stops. Hope you get some rest. You’re gonna need it as it’s a long weekend of m ommy daycare, but it will go fast. Make sure you’re enjoying the trip. 🙏 

Thanks for feeding Vinh. I can do it, but I really appreciate that you do. I know it’s not easy. Okay, that’s all I got to say about that. Hope you enjoyed the steak. It was free. TTQD!!

That’s where we went tonight. But like most nights, I’m left full, but not satisfied. So I know how you feel. Too bad I don’t have a picture of the waitress ☺️. At least we know now that we don’t need to go here. I wonder if they’ll survive. It’s not like it’s a bad restaurant. It still hurts when I swallow. I hope I’m okay. 🙏 

It’s my observation that a lot of our issues can be addressed with time and space. I believe you acknowledged that to me recently to some extent. Sometimes I get annoyed and if I wait, I get over it, then it’s a good time to talk about the annoyance.  Another observation is that sometimes you make decisions or comments without completely thinking of the ramifications, often emotional ones. I don’t want you to overthink everything, but easy/emotional actions are often regrettable. The other observations is that you don’t always revisit things we should. If we could work on those things together, that would be great. ATEN!!!

I won the poker tournament and used the money to buy a $30 scratcher and won $500,000. April Fools. WWW. You don’t need me to tell you what happened because you know the story. ✌️