Our Love Story Begins Today

What happened here? Anyhow, I cleaned it and put it back together. You’re welcome. We tell Vinh this all the time. We should do the same. Pay attention. Participate. Be nice…live by example…

I’m at Duc Huong and there have been two people complaining about how long it’s taking to get a sandwich. Not sure if it’s a coincidence, but they’re both women (one older and one younger) and it got me thinking. A lot of times we get emotional because we don’t correctly manage our expectations. If you see a long line at Duc Huong, why would you think your food would come fast? If you see someone get their food before you, don’t automatically assume they cut you, maybe they called in or their food didn’t require as much prep. Save yourself the stress by managing your expectations effectively.

Sometimes you just gotta make time to get things done. So I can understand your desire to have Ms. Liz come over Saturday. We can discuss and think about it a little longer. Seems expensive. Maybe ask Miss Sana? Anyhow, don’t forget that it’s okay to do something. It’s better than nothing. That’s my current mantra. Don’t get paralyzed by inaction because you’re overwhelmed. Take baby steps and keep moving forward. 

Those things are not mutually exclusive. You can always wake me up to blow. And even if I play MJ, I can still use a blow. I can honestly say, there’s no such thing as too much ejaculation and it really doesn’t hurt to offer and ask me all the time. What a coincidence that they had thit kho at Truong’s. Anyhow, just a reminder that everyone is given the same 24 hours. What makes the difference is how they use that same 24 hours…

Are you sad your sister left? At least you got to enjoy good food right? I know it sucks having to work tomorrow, but at least you don’t have to take Vinh to school in the morning and have him tell you he doesn’t want to go… Anyhow, your coffee machine isn’t on sale anymore, but I hope that encourages you to research the best machine out there regardless of price. It’s gonna last 10 years (hopefully until you retire), so gotta make sure you enjoy it.

You’re doing great. I can’t even be mad or annoyed when you annoyed me today because at least my nuts are empty. Now, this isn’t a solution to problems, but more of a medication/treatment. As a medical professional (even if you’re not a doctor), you should know that if you don’t treat the cause, medicine and treatment can only do so much. Please take Vinh’s advice (sometimes he’s very wise): just think about it.

It’s so easy to give and listen to, but harder to take. I get it. But at some point, we have to try something different if we want different results. And there’s no point listening to advice if we’re not gonna take it? I feel like we’ve done couples counseling, we went on a couples retreat, and things haven’t gotten better. You asked me if I wanted to go on that retreat that Doan and you are going to and to listen to Mel Robbins, but I feel like what’s the point if you don’t implement any of their advice? If anything, I feel like it’s gotten worse. I don’t know what you want me to do to help. 

Always be learning. Today I will relay a story. Duncan, Sarah’s husband once had a garbage collector not pick up the recycling because there was non-recyclable items in the bin.  Ideally, we should only put recycling in the bin, but because we don’t, we shouldn’t give the garbage people a change to refuse our stuff we should hide our contents by keeping the bin closed. If you don’t want to breakdown the boxes, I can. Also breaking down boxes allows us to fit more in there. 🤔 

Wow, 1,500 posts. Today after the doctors appointment, I swiffered the kitchen. I cleared out the dishwasher. I folded the laundry. I replaced all the towels in the house. I went to check on my parents and had a doctor call with Dad. I went grocery shopping. I’m going to take Vinh to swimming. I just wanted you to know that when you see me not doing anything, I probably did a lot already. Thanks, the pork was good (even without the fat, but maybe it could be better?)

It’s a good song by the Black Eyes Peas. I was just thinking this morning what happened? I don’t so much need the affection, but I feel like the affection you once showed me when you were head over heels is gone and so is the love? I know it’s there for Vinh, but I remember when it was there for me too. The Bible says it’s me before Vinh. I don’t think that’s necessary. I think it’s possible to love your spouse and child. 

I don’t think I have bad ones except food. Golfing and playing mahjong may kill time and cost money, but I always come home feeling better and recharged. Maybe it’s cause they’re both activities that are done on the early morning or late at night and the peace and quiet are important? Maybe I can find more good vices during that time…

It’s definitely nice to have Sunday to get ready for the work week (sorry God), but we could also go to church in the morning for a similar feeling/result too. Hope you had a good trip, but I’m gonna guess you’re only gonna remember our discussions. Speaking of discussions, I can only do so much. If you never want to remember or start conversations, I can’t do anything because you keep telling me you’re busy or doing something…we still haven’t discussed how we want to handle vacation and gift spending. You paid a random amount for food. Should I be paying you a random amount too?

Today is a sad day for me. It’s the realization that only Vinh is trying and caring for me. IIWII. I guess I don’t know what the point of marriage is. We should just be roommates coparenting Vinh. I remember one time when I didn’t walk you and Anna to the car at night and Anna was like Han would never do that. I felt bad, so I made sure I did. But it seems this is a one sided street. Sad, sad day. 

You know why they say that? It’s because if she’s not happy, everyone suffers. But if the husband or kids aren’t happy, no one cares. Pretty sad if you ask me or anyone that isn’t a wife or female partner (sucks for lesbians). You once told me that when you plan things you look at every scenario and try to do the best for everyone. I have to accept that there’s a reason we’re flying back from Cabo on a flight more than twice as long as the flight there and that cost more than double. I wasn’t there booking so I don’t know and have to give you the benefit of the doubt. However, in cases when I am there, I don’t think others the above statement is often true. Anyhow, I hope it gets better since you read this blog. I’m okay now and hope this doesn’t count as a “fight”.

He’s 3. It doesn’t seem to be getting any easier. WWW. It’s not too late for us to put/keep Vinh on the right track. You do a good job of trying. Thanks. I think we just need to make sure we’re on the same page about what track we want him on. Together everyone accomplishes more boba TEAM Boba. 

I think I’ve developed that condition you have where you’re super tired…I got a 9-1-1 at Dutch Bros to try sometime different. It says it has 6 shots of espresso and I got half off. I wanted to add some coconut, but I decided to try it original to start. It was not sweet enough and I couldn’t really taste the coffee. I wonder if the caffeine still works. I googled how much caffeine I should have in a day and thought this was too much so I tossed it. Turns out the amount of their 6 shots is not the same as what Google told me is in 1 shot of espresso. WWW

I think we don’t communicate the moving parts enough to each other. Then we misunderstand and feel incorrectly about a given situation or person. It’s like with work, where knowing the big picture can help me to make little decisions that impact the bigger picture. In this case, I had to call Sam’s corporate to update the pickup time and I’m honestly not sure if they did, in order to be able to get cupcakes early so I can get Vinh early (which wasn’t part of my plan). I hope it works out, but it’s important for me to know your big picture so I can make my little decisions. Thanks.

Mondays are a good pseudonym for things that suck, but we can that around if we start looking forward to them or at least not being so unhappy when they come around. Gotta try to make the best of every situation. IIWII. Thus was pretty good, but subway is half the price. Hmm what should I get next time…

Another weekend done, a new week is beginning. Thanks for taking Vinh to the gym and Museum and feeding him. Hope you have a good nap. 😴 Vinh fell asleep at 1:53PM. I was thinking you can go to church by yourself if you want Vinh to sleep longer. Yesterday you let him sleep until well after 5. I can watch him…

Could help prevent clots for me too. Just some food for thought. It could save my life. As Vinh would say, “Think about it…” Anyhow, maybe if I don’t swim tonight, we’ll have another chance to save my life. I hope it not too late 🤲. I’m just gonna drown my sorrows in this drink before you drop it or something 😂.

Not a joke about your height 😂. I was thinking that I sometimes feel like I do most of the household stuff. I never asked how you feel. With that in mind, I don’t want you to ever become bitter about it. So is there anything about our relationship you think is unfair? If you don’t tell me, I can’t address it. If I can’t address it, it can’t be my fault if it leads to your bitterness…also when you open up something you usually need to make two holes or make the single hole big enough for air to flow out with liquid…

So what’s the plan? How do you want to handle the finances of travel (and gifts)? We got a lot off expenses coming up and I want to make sure we’re on the same page. I’m still okay if I take a loss, but I wanted to make sure you’re okay and don’t feel like you’re taking a loss. Mathematically, it’s not possible for both of use to be “taking a loss”…

And so clean, clean. 🧼. Hope you enjoy the clean house. It’s always nice. Like a clean car or clean body. She was here for 4 hours.  Don’t worry. Vinh and I are doing fine. I know you hoped we’d be hopeless without you, but we manage. It’s also nice to have you around too, so don’t be too sad. Hope you enjoy your extra OT. 🙏 

It doesn’t have to be hard and it can still be good. Being easy and healthy and good might be a little trickier though. I wonder how many eggs I can eat without being unhealthy. I wanted to make the beans for you, but you used them all. Www. Gonna try to get some steaks for us for future…

It’s only 100PM and I want to go home. Waiting for car person to text me to see when I can drop off car, but I may just go home or maybe I should nap in my car like my other coworkers… I also was thinking I should get my iPhone battery replaced rather than buying a new phone. Just seems like $90 is a lot for a new battery. A refurbished phone is like $200-300, but who knows how good the battery is. Anyhow, I have decided to nap in my car. Always feel bad coming in late and leaving work early even though my work is done #optics

Time to drive home. I had to pee way too many times. I don’t think I’m gonna drink as much in the future… we made it home safe, but poor Vinh was sad he doesn’t have his toys or his pal Ziggy. I’m sad we won’t be spending too much time with them if any when we go back down. I guess it’s good we got the drugs for Tao. Anyhow, glad it was a good trip overall…

How one spends their time says a lot about them as a person. Which begs the question, when does saving money not make sense? I’ve been waiting for about 10 minutes to get gas. I get paid $60/hour so that means if I didn’t save $10 it’s probably not worth it… The other factor is that I’m saving time in the future. Either way, I think it’s pretty important to constantly evaluate how we spend our time and money. Vinh will see that and learn from what we do…

Hope you had fun celebrating today. It was nice to be a me to relax a little today. I’m glad I was able to get some errands done today too. I feel a little off, but I’m hoping a nice sleep tonight will help reset me. 🙏  America isn’t perfect, but it’s got a lot of opportunities and freedoms. It’s too bad it seems to be getting worse, not better. At least other countries are picking up the slack. Hopefully we are able to enjoy our retirement and leave something better for Vinh 🙏.

🙏 we have a good trip. I could be wrong, but I think we’ve been having okay trips of late. Nothing super bad happened even if it’s not amazingly good. Look at how low the kid toilet is. Too bad it was me that had to pee, not Vinh. Get some rest, it’s gonna be a long weekend and you’ll need to have energy and be patient.

There’s so much to do, but thankfully work is under control. Thanks for the cute notes you leave me around the house. You should make notes for other things if it helps you remember. “Breathe Uyen, don’t yell”, “Uyen, did you 💨 today?” Anyhow, it might help your blood pressure and your relationship with your family. Just some food for thought…

Mine started out great, but got worse. But you know what? It could have started out worse and got worser. You know what helped? 💨  Anyhow, Vinh cried a lot today at dropoff. It’s probably gonna suck next week too since he has a long weekend with his family away from daycare. Hopefully he finds something good at My Gym. I know it’s all new friends, but at least Miss Sana is still there and he says he wants to go…