Our Love Story Begins Today

But I can’t make you drink. Similarly, God only helps those who help themselves. I offered to prepare you lunch and I offered to take Vinh to daycare today. In both cases you declined. I’m trying to help prevent new problems from occurring rather than having to solve new problems. If you don’t want my help, then you also can’t complain about the consequences of your own actions. WWW…

I was looking over the exercises that Dennis wants us to do. I just finished mine. Maybe I need to find other things for you to do for me. I thought it’s simpler to have less, but maybe you need more options.  I feel like sometimes having more options makes things more complicated? I’m guessing this blog will remind you to do your assignment as well. TTQD!!!

Thanks for apologizing. That’s what today’s Hidden Brain was about. Thanks for also having a plan after sorry. That’s what I’ve always asked about and was mentioned on Hidden Brain as well.  I think the passenger mirror hit another car mirror. Also I got a tummy ache after eating Carl’s Jr. In n out was too far and my subway coupon didn’t work. I think it was the soda. WWW day, but I found this nice and large parking space after lunch. See you later. TTQD!!

It’s unavoidable because life happens no matter what. So much in life we can’t control. Need to reduce introducing more complications into our lives if we can. Old habits die hard, but only if we kill them. Here’s to good habits. TLT!!!

Don’t suffocate Vinh. Hopefully you get some good rest with him. Maybe he’ll nap for 4 hours again? Anyhow, it was nice not to “have” anything to do today. I didn’t get much work done, but I did get some chores done. It always takes some time to get back into a routine after having visitors, but I also really need to focus on work cause I have a lot to do. Alright TTYL, back to chores. ATEN!!!

Here you go: I couldn’t really think of anything to blog today. Lots going on today though. I hope you get some good rest. No 🌬️ www, even though I didn’t MJ and it’s early. ASTEN 😞 

I didn’t do any shopping today. Instead I’m watching Vinh. I think he associates eating with the car now. He didn’t want to sit in high chair. We’ll see what happens for lunch. I’m too lazy to hide car now though. I want to nap. Anyhow, my “work” day is about half over. I think I should have hired help. I will look into it for the other days that daycare is closed. Might be worth it to go to work and pay for help. ATEN!!!

For trying to cook. My only suggestion is to not sacrifice health for flavor. So fresh quail eggs is cool, but skipping on extra egg whites and fish maw is not so cool. But I’m glad the family enjoyed it. I’ll try to be more supportive and helpful with your attempts to cooking. Also if you want to split all the shared bills we can, although I don’t think you’ll like the results. TLG!!!

I was gonna nap, but it’s almost time to go pick up Vinh. Having your parents here has been a real help to the point where there presence almost outweighs their absence. It was a little close on time, but I’m glad they made their flight. Dad wanted to leave later. They said they’re gonna miss Vinh. They’ll see him again next month. I hope they know that we appreciate them being here. 

Waiting in line at duc huong. They seem to always be busy, but it could be lunch time. Sorry my dad said not to say anything. I will try to give your parents the heads up next time somehow.  Now I’m debating if I should cut their meal short to go pick up Vinh or if I should pick up Vinh and come back for them. Not sure about you, but I’m glad the awkward traditions or process will stop with us. TLG!!!

That was the theme of the mens only segment of the retreat. Basically, we all fuck up, but we need to keep moving forward. If you’re in a relay race and you drop the baton, you need to pick it up and keep running. I don’t often make the same mistakes, but there are some bad habits that I find hard to break, so I can understand why people repeat there errors. But knowing that I will make mistakes isn’t an excuse to not try and stop making the same ones. That’s the difference. One is accepting defeat, the other acknowledges its possibility, but strives to prevent it. So pick up the baton. I am today. ATEN!!!

That’s a term that is used to mean a mess. It’s the best way I can describe parts of the weekend and the drive home today.  I don’t want to react and I don’t know if I need to respond so I’m just gonna sit on it and hope I don’t think about it anymore. If I do, I’ll think before I speak or do anything. #oneness

Man, it sure was awkward at the aquarium today, but hopefully our incident will help others learn for the future. Be more explicit in directions for scamming and always remember where you parked. Maybe I should put an AirTag in the car.  Movie was kind of boring, but the two screens was cool. I hope the kids enjoyed it. TTQD!!!

I’m waiting at the nunnery for stuff and I say this good photo opportunity for falling leaves across the street. Even though I had today off, it’s been non stop. Although there isn’t much to differentiate today from a work day. Which makes me feel less bad about working because I do a lot of personal stuff on my work days. Hoping for a good trip for everyone this weekend. 🙏. ATEN!!

There’s no lottery today to draw except scratchers and I don’t have any. So maybe luck will come a different way.   Today when I came to my parents they weren’t home. It turns out they were taking a walk together. That’s nice. My dad is also working on this at the house. Hope he enjoys it. The persimmons aren’t as nice at moms. WWW!!!

Thanks for the tax refund advance, even though it’s a great investment. But also thank you for clearly communicating and understanding the expectations as it relates to ours, yours and mine, finances. I hope we have more wins going forward. Please continue to communicate expectations clearly. I got this drink in your honor to use the last $2 on gift card. ATEN 🍻!!!

Someone knows how to say cheese now. And he sure does like to cheers. It is really odd that he wants someone different in the morning than night. Although I wonder if it’s because you slept with him? You feel like praying is helping our relationship? Anyhow, I hope we’re making progress. Divorce is too complicated and time consuming, but being unhappy is also not great. Happily married is ideal, but that requires teamwork. TLG!!!

Love is blind they say. I guess it goes both ways. I used to think you were blind, but maybe I’m blind too. Anyhow, here is my wife. I only care about your health. It’s okay if you’re map and xau xi. I still will thuong you and not chia thy you. Anyhow, hope you had fun seeing me, but you probably only care about charging your car and your jujubes. ASTEN!!!

I hope that my some of my good qualities would rub off on you. Sorry I didn’t capture a picture of Vinh cheering with himself. But look how relaxed he is.  It’s like the Paul thing. I’m glad it worked out. But if it didn’t, the other solution is to not stress or worry about it. Let them worry about you, don’t let them rent out space in your mind. Anyhow, hoping our therapy and retreat lead to positive changes in our relationship. TTQD!!!

I’ve always preached for us to be a Team. I just realized that the concept of Oneness is identical, although I didn’t explicitly reference God being part of of team, it’s kind of implied. I guess after our dust up this morning over something normal as IYL it got me rethinking about what we’re doing to achieve that unity and if going to the retreat makes any difference except that a third party is saying the same thing I am. 🙏 TLG!!!

Either way, both a case for celebrating. Now every year we have to remember to congratulate both of them. I’m too fat for even my vest. I can’t imagine how tight or non fitting the suit and shirts will be. I don’t know if it’s possible to lose enough weight. To be honest, I thought it was too tight when I initially got it. The Viet Nam suit came in handy. TTQD!!!

We’re very lucky that your mom and Vinh are good together. It’s gonna be tough to see them go, but it was nice while it lasted. Look at mom and Vinh. Hopefully he learns to be better around us once your parents leave. I also hope he remembers them too so he doesn’t have to reacquaint himself with them again. TTQD!!!

WWJD was a common slogan Christian kids used at Berkeley to spur engagement and get people to be curious about Jesus. I was walking back from getting the mail today and got to thinking about us because the card I wrote to Boba Chop arrived. What happened to the empty pods? Anyhow, I think if we go to church, shouldn’t we work to be more like Jesus? You always mention that if others are taking advantage of me you feel like you should too. It’s very sad you feel that way. You shouldn’t do what others do, you should do what’s right. That’s how you set a good example for Vinh (and others). Anyhow, that was my thought earlier. ASTEN!!!

I prayed this morning. I thought about our weekend. I don’t really know how dying to myself in this situation will make it any better.  I was telling Peter about what I learned in the retreat. And the question he asked me was, what did you learn? I told him I don’t know, but I assume it was the same as me because aside from the women only session we were in it together. It seemed like the retreat was all about what I can do. I’m reminded of how great the world would be if everyone tried to outdo each other in terms of doing good. Seems like that’s the same idea about marriage. If we both tried to outdo each other in terms of being the best versions of ourselves and partners for each other, how amazing would that be. Anyhow, love isn’t lost, except in this dream I had. But it’s just a dream, not real life. ATEN is real life!!

That you fell in love with me again this weekend and then I left you. I hope you’re able to make the best use of our time apart. Did you need time apart from Vinh too? I was gonna take a picture in this for you, but it might be too sexy, so I didn’t. Peter told me I should steal the slippers from the hotel, but unfortunately, I didn’t get any. WwW. I’ll see you tomorrow. ATEN!!!

The loves of my life in one picture: I had to add my wallet because it wasn’t in the previous picture. I don’t know how you’ll end up feeling about this weekend, but I hope you got value from it. If anything, you got to sleep a lot 😂. For me, I think I got some perspective, but it’s still be up to me/us how we implement what we saw this weekend into our own relationship. I still feel like God wasn’t necessary, but I understand the reason and origin of the organization. I also realize that many of the resources that society fails to provide end up being provided by religious organizations. Anyhow, sorry I have to run. ASTEN!!!

It’s only normal that our priorities differ. I just hope that we’ll learn to sync more priorities going forward. Sleeping is one of your priorities. Although I like to sleep too, I also prioritize getting things done. I hope you are able to get enough sleep this weekend. Looks like your mouth only is open in the car rides. It’s too bad I can’t check on Vinh sleeping www. TLG!!!?

Hopefully for good reasons. This was supposed to be a different picture, but it is what it is. You seem tired, so I hope you get some rest tonight. There are lots of opportunities to benefit this weekend. I hope we’re able to take advantage of as many of them as we can. TTQD!!!

I’m so mentally exhausted and now it’s blow time. I hope you don’t hurt me and I hope I don’t forgot to finish this blog… I almost forgot. Anyhow. I didn’t really have an inspiration for the post today, but I did have a thought and that is I hope someday we’ll be able to communicate freely without each other without fear. It goes both ways. ATEN!!

I was gonna text you, but I didn’t want to distract you any further at work. I just wanted to say that it’s nice to have information, but you always need to process it as well. I know Julie means well when she says we pay too much for daycare to have Vinh hurt, but it’s not a fair statement. Kids get hurt in daycare. Trang mentioned Finley bit 7 kids that they know of. I don’t want Vinh to get hurt, but I also realize that it’s not gonna be perfect at daycare. You can ask the teacher to keep Vinh away from that other kid, but if what the report says is true, Vinh engaged with the kid himself. I want to think Vinh is an 😇, but I know he has a temper and I just hope it only comes out at home, but I don’t know. So back to what I said the other day, whatever you end up saying to the teacher I hope it’s helpful. 🙏. TLG!!