Our Love Story Begins Today

Parenthood sure feels like a lot of wasting and sacrifice. Why are we doing this? 😂  Good thing we have resources, but man. What a financial hit. He’s cute, but hookers are cheaper and cuter 😆. Anyhow, I hope everyone gets well soon. I’m really tired of coughing and holding him. TLG!!!

It’s kind of nice that you’re home today. You can see how much I do on a day to day basis while working. It’s also nice that you have time to yourself to get your own things done.  Maybe you need to have a checklist for yourself. It might help you budget your time and energy. If you don’t have time or energy, maybe you need to pray more. WWW…

Another weekend has come and gone. We find ourselves at Sunday again. Fortunately, our only task today is to go to Nate’s and drop off Anna. I guess we need to get ready for daycare and I probably need to do some work, but it should be a quiet evening. It’s always nice to see friends and family. Better when we know they’re doing well. It’s unfortunate that Tony couldn’t make it, but I think we might be expecting too much of him. He has his own life too. TLG!!!

Each time I’ve ended a blog, it’s been to start another blog to signify a new chapter in our journey. However, I don’t know what the next chapter is. I’m reminded of an email I wrote early in our relationship about how upset I was after having to leave your house and drive home. At the moment, I have a similar feeling, but the circumstances are different. Maybe it is true that nothing lasts forever and everything has its expiration date. I guess ours is sooner than I would have liked or expected. Unfortunately, I’ve done all I can. It doesn’t seem like you have any real interest in salvaging what we have. After our last talk I had hope, but maybe that was naive of me. Zebra can’t change their stripes and I guess you don’t care enough about me or us to change yours. But I can see why. You got what you wanted out of me (wedding, kid, photos). You suggested marriage counseling, but at this point, I don’t see the point. You do not have any real desire to move outside your comfort zone. And...

Some people say it’s better late than never, but some times things are too late. Sometimes it is never. People die unexpectedly. Circumstances change. Sometimes we don’t get another chance…

Vinh currently won’t sleep so I’m gonna try to post anyways. He’s too curious about the handyman and noise, but his eating was off today and he had a 2 hour nap with Suzy. He’s currently pinching my neck… Chong’s dishwasher is normal, but they just stack good, this is Ava. Anyhow I’m sad, but I’m trying to stick it through until I feel better. Blessed life, but there’s always rough times. Vinh is now scratching my arm. TTQD!!

The coffee place, not the dragon house. I feel like I’ve been on the road all day and I meant to get myself a Vinh House coffee for tomorrow, but I totally forgot. Www. For some reason I can’t find a picture of my drink I get from Vinh House so here’s a picture of “cup”. I washed and recycled a Bober cup since I thought I was getting Vinh. Guess I can always pick it out or use a red cup for coffee on my way to work. I would try to get a Vinh House, but I don’t want to risk being late. TLG!!!

That’s what’s they say in the wedding mass readings. They also say for better or for worse. But I wonder what’s the limit? Like in Nga’s cause it’s pretty worse, but is she supposed to stick around? I was listening to a podcast about this priest that lead a school and it was know that he was assaulting girls, but no one did anything and when a nun tried, they killed her. So is this a reflection of the church? No. It’s a failure to use common sense. I’m pretty sure that’s not what God wanted of her church. That’s probably why it’s important to pray for wisdom. To know the difference between right and wrong. TLG!!!

I took this photo the other day. It’s the stuff I think you ran over that’s still on the stroller? Www. It’s symbolic of the fact that we will have less time and less resources now because we have to dedicate some of it to Vinh. So don’t feel to bad, but also do let it become an excuse that things are too overwhelming so we should do nothing. It’s just gonna take some adjusting. Gotta be optimistic and flexible. TLG!!!

Should be a good year for Em: The Chinese  zodiac  is made up of 12 animals, and three of them are the luckiest of them all. These are the Pig, Monkey and Dog, who are all very compatible with the Rabbit. According to astrologers, those who are the most compatible with the Rabbit this year will have the most luck. I forgot you were a pig. Makes sense now 😂. TTCH!!

But not cause of us. Feel really bad for Nga and the girls. Wonder if my parents will feel bad they didn’t want her to get divorced (I heard). Nga is worried about her financial situation. Apparently, Kim made her sign a prenup (supposedly per Jewel). I always say that real problems are ones we can’t fix with money we have. This is a real problem. Something new to pray for. Count our blessings. TYGN!!

Woohoo!!! I finally get to golf. I wonder if I should use the new clubs Tao gave me yet? What do you think? I haven’t practiced with them yet, but I never really go to the range so I can only practice on the course.  I better post this now and get ready to relieve Oanh. Looks like someone is behind in reading the blog. Www. ATEN!!!

I’m gonna put that back in your court. To reiterate, I’m fine going to it. I think, however, that we can solve the problems on our own currently based on open discussion and communication and dedication. From what I can gather about couples therapy, they don’t really tell you what to do. They just seem to help you communicate. But I dunno. You let me know. I removed it from my to do list. TTQD!!

Today I had a lunch with Eric. It’s always nice to chat and catch up. Food was good too. It’s sad, but nice to know that we all have similar problems 😂. But we’re both trying to get through it. We should try this place some time. It’s not bad. TLG!!!

🙏 that Dina will recover 💯. With that, my day was thrown for a loop. Not sure how proficient Oanh is, but I didn’t feel as comfortable abandoning her as I do with Suzy or Dina. And to top it off, he cried and whined a lot today. But we’re blessed that she was able to help us out. I hope Em is happy and healthy and the toilet works. I hope Vinh gets better. And I hope Oanh graduates and gets a good job. And I hope I get $$$ fast for the tax return. TLG!!!

Ugh, I mean happy MLK Day. But really, it’s nice to be able to get out today to get stuff done. Suzy came at 8, which is great so I was able to get out early. There was no line at the oil change, but my coupons expired. Www.  Boba chop!!! Hopefully I can get everything done I want to get done today and take a nap. Oil change, smog check, get stuff from Kieu, get stuff from Minh, return at Target, return at Kohls, Bank, 85 degrees, Asian store, ABC bakery, and Lichines deli for lucky lotto. Oh and I need to order the free meal kit from Lorraine and go to Sam’s club and remember to buy one carrot. And if I have time, maybe a little work. Doubt it, but we’ll see. Can’t wait for file taxes. I miss the days when I could file in January 1. More money, more problems. TTQD!!!

Have you been following gold prices? It’s back over $1900 now. I am debating selling some bars. I think you can keep the pretty or special ones, but have some set aside that you are okay selling. It’s like any other investment where you should sell high and buy low. Couldn’t find any pictures of gold bars on my phone so here’s some money picture. I think you said it’s up to me, but I still like to ask you. I think you only set aside 2 bars you were okay selling. No pressure, but you might want to pick more. I think if it goes close to $2000 you should at least one if.not both. Then have a few more to sell if it goes to $2200. And if it goes down to less than $1800, I’ll buy one more. And if it goes down more, I’ll buy another. TTienQD!!! 😂 

You can’t have rainbows without having rain. Not sure if that’s scientifically proven or just what they say. But it does make sense. This rainbow was much prettier the first time I went out and imagine birds flying into it. Anyhow, I know we have some rain in our relationship, but we also have a lot of rainbows and much more sunshine. It’s easy to only remember the rain when it’s raining, but just like life, it can’t rain all the time. ATEN!!!

Woohoo. It’s Friday!!! The 13th? Anyhow, just taking a break before going on lunch. With trusty and reliable Lorraine on phones I can go out stress free. I was chatting with Dina. These are so good, I might have to reserve them only for special occasions… She prefers Vinh be president rather than be a priest. Maybe he could become the Pope. I wonder if she thought about that. Lol. He’s doing good so far today so that’s one less thing for me to worry about. I think I’m gonna get Del Taco for lunch since I have coupons.

I have to remember to be gentle with I do a boba chop. But he isn’t very gentle when he chops me. It actually makes some sense to put the thing this way, but then it takes up more space and it barely doesn’t fit under my monitor. Www. So annoyed that I spilled some soda water and redbull syrup in my office, but I wiped it down and sprayed some Lysol. We don’t have a pest problem, so hope it stays that way. Pretty sad there was no ramen at Grocery Outlet today, but I got some salty snacks. They’re not great, but they’ll do for now. TLG!!!

Probably thought I was gonna blog about our talk today huh? Nope. I had a dream last night where you thought I cheated on you, but it was you who cheated on me… I had a good blog topic, but work distracted me and I forgot. Anyhow, here’s what Eric made me for lunch. Good stuff. Gonna try to nap while Vinh is. TTQD!!!

I’ve been watching some video clips about relationships while I’m holding Vinh. I might break the record of how long he sleeps today. Sorry if that’s bad for us later, but I hear it’s not bad for babies to sleep cause that’s how they develop? Thanks for giving me joy by giving me money. I know how hard it is for you to spend it so I appreciate that you spend it on me (give it to me). TTQD!!! Troi oi, troi oi. 😂 

Sorry, I’m getting In N Out without you. Had to go to bank to get cash for babysitting and this was the most desirable place along the way. Del Taco was 2nd place, but I forgot the coupons. Might not make it to work uneaten lol. The line was so long though off Natomas that I ended up going to Del Paso which is nice that it’s nearby and lucky that there wasn’t as long as a line here. If you ever want In N Out, I don’t mind eating it again or getting it for you only as punishment. I’m posting while waiting in drive through. Blessed to be able to eat In N Out. ATEN!!!

Can’t nap yet. Have to post this blog. Things are broken today, but with time and money, they’re fixable. Same goes for you. Don’t worry, I’m not gonna throw you away. There are brand new things I’ve tossed and broken things I’ve kept. You still bring me joy, so I’ll keep you for now. Marie Kondo. TTQD!!!

I will make an effort to say please and be more responsible and respectful. I hope you will do the same as well. Today I want to apologize if my comments hurt your feelings. It was not my intention. I know it’s hard to admit wrong or admit responsibility, but it’s harder to watch or listen to someone try and avoid taking responsibility or blaming someone else. 2023 should be the year of doing what’s right, versus what’s easy. TLG!!!

Another picture of mamma and baby? Poor baby, gets used to grabbing boobies and then he wakes up to this. Www. 😂  All kidding aside, it’s nice to have help so my babies can sleep. It’s too bad I have to work or I could help more. Enjoy it while you can. Daycare is coming. TTQD!!!

Today, and I guess life, it’s give and take. I guess it’s also perspective. Womps: had to sweep gravel back because car and maybe rain pushed it to street. Subway coupon womp, ups didn’t accept my box so I bought a box from them because I was too lazy to go home and repack, gas is up, gold went down, and work is busy. Wins: Matcha Boba Milk Tea, Suzy, Jehan, Lorraine, work, money, snacks, family, friends, opportunities. Definitely more positive than negatives. Womps aren’t serious, wins are. TTQD!!!

I know it’s not preferred or ideal, but daycare is starting to look more appealing. We’ve been very fortunate up to this point that we’ve been able to patch together help for caring for Vinh, but I think it will be best for everyone if we had something more consistent for him. I’m well aware that there are cons to daycare, but I hope they don’t become more than the pros. But assuming he acclimates to his new environment and people, I think he’ll be okay. 🙏 TTQD!!! (It’s been 30 mins, wonder how long he’ll sleep without being held. I was able to eat a salad, but I think dishes will be too loud. Also Suzy has an interview tomorrow at 1130, so she’s coming by after. Another reason we need daycare.)

You think we should park a car outside in case of emergency? Although, I can’t remember if we replaced both garage springs or not, but assuming those don’t break, we should be able to manually open the garage on our own. Also we need to toss the baby monitor or give it away since it was never set up and now we have a camera in there. There’s also some baptism stuff. Just trying to organize. Control what I have control over 😂. TTQD!!!

Dang this didn’t get posted early, but still on time. Costco was a mess today. But I got through it. Wonder if people were sad it was closed Sunday so they had to make up for it today. I was in the wrong line. But I got through it. Had to park far, but that didn’t stop me from being responsible and putting my cart back in the rain even though there wasn’t a cart return near where I parked. I couldn’t get gas or air in my tires, but I’ll try another day. TLG!!!

I’m really trying this year to be better. But I’m gonna need your help. I keep framing things as not about me or you, but about a problem I want us to solve together. I just feel like you want to keep it about me and me having feelings. But it’s not about my feelings. It’s about the actions that problems my feelings. Like if someone keeps stabbing me I can choose not to scream, but the person should really stop stabbing me. And if I do scream, I shouldn’t be blamed because I keep getting stabbed. Sometimes I feel like you’re the victim, but it’s your actions that cause my reaction. All I’m trying to do now is figure out how to stop your actions. How would you feel if I kept doing inconsiderate things and annoyed or disrespected you? TLG!