Our Love Story Begins Today

So much to do today and so little time. But the important things got done. As well as some unimportant things. I think at the end of the day, one of the reasons I like doing things is because I like the satisfaction of something being done and crossed off my list. I meant to get Gong Cha yesterday for TD and Mama Do, but it closes at 5 (actually 530). I also got stuff for my family and yours from Asian stores, went to post office, Costco, See’s, Peter’s house. The only thing I wanted to do today that I couldn’t want take Tony to the shooting range. I even had some jerky delivered. I guess some things will have to wait. Now I’m bonding with TD while he grills some steaks. Good times. We boyz. Although I feel bad I told him and Martina the story of how fish get butchered at the store…anyhow, TTQD!!!

Didn’t know what to blog about today, but I did have a picture (capture from video): It’s been a rough few days. I hope we’re on the upward momentum now. My stomach hurts from eating too much jello. I thought we weren’t playing games this week, but I guess we are. It’s been almost a month I think. It should almost be over, but I’m sure they’ll be a new game. Looks like we’re not playing the normal game, but still playing a game. I also mistook cst for est. Sigh. Anyhow, TTQD!!

You often tell me that I’m difficult, but I wonder if you realize how difficult you are as well. You often comment about other couples, but have you thought that maybe their partners are difficult and hence why it appears they don’t argue? I’m really tired of being painted as this horrible person that always yells at and berates his partner. If your family or friends don’t like me, I’m fine with that as long as they have an accurate image of me to make that decision from. We talked about cause and effect yesterday. I admit, I can probably change the way I react, but it’s also fair that I wouldn’t have to react if there wasn’t something to react to.  At the end of the day, I think we both can agree, we don’t like fighting or arguing with one another. It doesn’t feel good to have our feelings invalidated. We want our partner to support us. And we want to stay in this union. The only thing we need to figure out is how we arrive at the result we both want. ATEN!!

I’m sorry if you don’t feel like I let you vent. I’ll work on just listening and not saying anything in the moment. For me in this moment, I just feel like you are stressed, but you don’t care about finding positive ways to deal with stress. Rather you just want to avoid it. Unfortunately, many of the things we find stressful are things our partner enjoys or has to do. And so if we’re gonna have to do it anyways, should we try and learn the best way to get through it? This is a new blog, but the old post about insanity still applies in married life. If we keep doing the same things we’re gonna keep getting the same results. If we want to not feel stressed about having “parties”, then maybe we need to look at different ways of having parties? Socializing is just part of life. My concern now is how we’re gonna deal with future obstacles.  It would be great if we could stay in a bubble and only experience things that we enjoy, but life doesn’t work that way. We’re officially Team Uyen...

When I wake up for golf, I don’t feel tired. Doesn’t matter how much I slept the night before. I wish I had that mindset when it came to other aspects of life. 😂  I saw this girl today hanging to this guy’s arm and I thought of my wifey. 😂 Anyhow, just know that I love you. If you want a post-nup we can do one. However, like I promise to love and honor you. I also promise not to go after your assets. If you want to go after mine, that’s really your call. TTQD!!!

Thank Goodness It’s Friday. It’s been a busy week, but I think I’m finally back into the swing of things post wedding (minus the full house). Kids have been in a good mood. We’re  missing out by not spending time with them. They live very far away so it’s a rare opportunity. I know you don’t like doing it while others are around or at Liem’s house, but unless we’re making a special trip to see them, it’s highly likely when we do see them, there will be other people around too. You’ve been doing great adjusting to uncomfortable circumstances. While we all want to avoid uncomfortableness, often times when we’re able to overcome it, we reap the most rewards. Like when you’re exercising, the peak benefit your body gets only occurs when you’ve pushed yourself beyond your comfort level. ASTEN!!

Tomorrow is Friyah. You excited? Honestly, yesterday felt like Friday, yet here I am blogging and working today.  Tony sent us all a graphic of venting to one’s partner and it reminded me how you go to Boo to vent. Which is okay, but I want you to know you should be able to come to me as well. So I’m really gonna try to work on being just a listener and not fixer sometimes. Or at least not get offended when you don’t use my fix. By the way, where is the blood pressure monitor? Does your mom not know you don’t like curry. I think she’s making that for food, but it’s Vietnamese so maybe you’ll be okay. Or not because it’s your mom's…anyhow TTQD!!

Can’t remember the last time I golfed with Peter Tran. Anyhow, it’s kind of a return to the past. I haven’t golfed in 2 weeks, which seems like forever. Please note, the marriage (rings) has not impacted the game as far as I can tell. It’s a sign that things can often become right after being  wrong for so long. Anyhow, as I sit here waiting, I’m always reminded of Em Chu. I love you very much. Even when you can’t see it, I hope you feel my love and appreciation. ATEN!!

As I get a chance to look through my texts, I see a common them. Soooo much to do, but it’s good stuff. We need to visit and see soooo many people, but I’m looking forward to it. I understand my wife is a little anxious about social settings, but I can see her opening up and I acknowledge it. Here’s a random picture of some gold. But you’re my gold bar and my investment. I hope I continue to reap the benefits and rewards of our relationship. TTQD!!

I still am not into the swing of things like I was prior to wedding, but at least things are moving forward. Got chores and work done today and also got to bond with my brother in law, TD. I’ve also noticed that my wife has been making good strides into being better about a lot of things. I just want her to know that I see and acknowledge it. I’m also trying too. Anyhow, I thuong you bruh. TTQD!!!

That’s how I felt a lot lately (when I’m not BBQD). But I’m glad it’s more 😃 than 😔. I’m thinking back about one of my initial posts about blank slate. I know we’re both getting used to being married (elbow jab 😂). I just want us to get good best at being married. I know it’s not easy to forget/forgive, but I hope we can learn to hang onto the positives of our past and let go of the negatives. Sometimes we lapse, but I belief that we can’t truly move forward if part of us is stuck in the past. Plus I really want our marriage to be a fresh start of our love story. I wuv Em baby nhieu. TTQD!!

Today celebrates the emancipation of slaves, but it also celebrates a breakthrough in Team Uyen-D. We overcame our first fight and I think we’re stronger and better setup to deal with future fights. I sure hope my suit is cleaned. I’m sorry I got it dirty. Anyhow, yesterday and this morning was great. I hope it’s a sign of our future days together. I can totally live with that. ATEN!!! Now let us pray for a safe and successful trip to San Jose. 🙏🏽 

Sometimes surprises are pleasant, like finding $50 on the floor or getting an extra fan delivered. But other times surprises throw our plan for a loop and ruin our expectations. I just wished people did what they say they’d do. For better or worse, at least I’d know what to expect. For us, I think that’s what would help us out. I wish we could both provide each other with consistency in an otherwise inconsistent world. We need to be each other’s pillars. Not break each other down. I’m sorry if I am not supportive and consistent as I could be. I will work on that as well. TTQD!

It’s the first fight since we’ve been married. I say first because I don’t think it’ll be the last, although I’d like it to be.  Everyone has told me that couples always fight over money. I hoped we could be different, but I guess not. What I hope for now is that we can find a way to move past this. I have presented my suggestions for a possible solution. It’s extreme because I don’t think you understand nuance. We have to be clear in our understanding. Our new blog has only started. I don’t want it to end so soon…BBQD.

Today we said goodbye to Han and Anna. It’s bittersweet as they were fun (and Han is helpful), but had the house a little quieter is nice too. Today I said hello to some people at work: I said goodbye to my previous pay and hello to a small increase. Little is better than nothing, but less than a lot 😂 . I wouldn’t say marriage is different, but I am making more of an effort to keep the peace. My wife is doing the same. I think if we have that mentality, we’ll be fine. TTQD!!!

Went back to “work” today. But I was also still recovering from wedding. Got lots of laundry done. Organized a little. Cleared garbage. Cleared email inbox. Still thuonging Em. Getting used to having 2 moms and dads. Getting more patient I hope. This is a good sign of things to come I hope. TTQD!!!

It’s Day 3 of marriage. Life is getting back to normal. Some little annoyances here and there, but I’m learning that this is all part of the experience of marriage. There is no perfect marriage because it is made of imperfect people. I just hope that having God as part of it will make perfection in imperfect circumstances. Day 4 is tomorrow and I’m back to work. Wish me luck TTQD!!!

Today we continued the wedding celebration: It’s day 2 and I still am happy to be married to you 😂  Sorry I am weak sot and threw up. I’m just glad it was at the very end of the day pretty much. I’m also sorry this blog post is late, but I’m gonna date it accordingly. I’m not sorry that I still TTQD you. I kinda want to poop, shower and eat (not all at once though).

Whenever God closes a door, she opens a cua so. That's you 😂. As we say goodbye to Anh Thuong Em Nhat, we say hello to Our Love Story Begins Today. You can argue that it really began on that fateful Father's Day celebration in 2017, but today it's official. Not that counterfeit, "Made In China" stuff, but like the authentic love story. In the spirit of this story, I want to continue the theme from my Groomcard I wrote you. Our love story hasn't really been written yet. It's only begun. It's a blank canvas. We had a past as a strangers. We had a past as a couple. We have a present as Team Uyen-D (officially).  All the previously marketed Team Uyen-D are collectors items now because the real show began today. In case you didn't know, I am writing this a few days beforehand. I wanted time to get my thoughts out and more importantly, I figured I wouldn't have much time to write on Saturday. I hope today was amazing in the most positive way for you...