Roles

You’re a good mom to Vinh. You are a good child to your parents and sister to your siblings. I’m not your friend, but you seem like an okay friend. What I realize is those things don’t necessarily make you a good wife.

I think I asked you before what you thought the expectations of a husband should be and maybe what you think the expectations for a husband should be, but I don’t think I ever heard back. In any case, unless I do, I have my own expectations of a wife:

- take care of me (I do most of the shopping, cleaning, cooking, protecting, maintenance)

- care about me and my happiness (many things are encompassing of yours or Vinh’s or someone else’s happiness, but rarely is it mine alone)

- plan for a future with me (your plans only involve you and Vinh and when I mention us, you give me a side eye)

You did a lot more when we were dating, but now I find myself taking care of myself and us. It feels like all your time is spent on your other roles at the sacrifice of your role as a wife…