Our Love Story Begins Today

Today. Officially. My annual golf trip. I was really hoping I’d get the opportunity to relax and have a clear mind, but that wasn’t the case. Thanks for checking in on my dad. 🙏  I emailed the doctor, but I doubt they reply that soon. I don’t like her, but I don’t think there are many options… I’m tired. I have that headache. Vinh cried all morning.  My wife needs surgery…but at least I’m golfing. The pope said we shouldn’t be slaves to money, but it’s hard to be poor and comfortable in our world…

Will the next few days apart help us to appreciate and grow closer? I still hope you thrive while I’m gone so I don’t worry as much. But try to survive at least. Thankfully, you’ll only need to have one full day on your own. Thanks for giving me the opportunity to golf. I really need a recharge. May you find some peace and recharge while I’m gone and bond with our son. I pray he isn’t too sad while I’m gone. 🙏 

If I woke up before I met you, I don’t know if I would choose to meet you sooner or at all. When it’s good it’s okay, but when it’s bad it really sucks. The only reason it’s iffy is because of Vinh. Maybe if I did decide to meet you, I could have more of an opinion and not let you have your way all the time. I have a mouse a cookie… Anyhow, it’s doubtful that I’ll get a chance to unmeet you and unmake Vinh, so I’ll just have to live with the choice I made. Hopefully, I’ll find a way to cope or you’ll find a way to be the best you for everyone. Who am I kidding? I’ll just drink 🍻. 

I hope you know that I’m very capable of taking care of Vinh in your absence. It will be on full display when you go on your retreat. Anyhow, thanks for taking care of him while I’m here. It’ll help you spend more time together too. I spend a lot of time with him already 😂.

We made it home. I asked if you had a good time and you said you did. You also didn’t have any suggestions to make it better, so I guess that’s good? I don’t think there was any drama this trip so that’s good too. Anyhow, thanks for taking care of Vinh. I’m glad I didn’t go swim so that it wasn’t too much before I leave. Gonna be a quick few days before I go. 

When you offered help? Sounds familiar…I’m gonna try really hard not to offer help. But what I don’t want to hear is “I wish I had known”. As they say, you can’t have your cake and eat it too…this is the same. I can’t ignore the odds that I will lose if I gamble and then be mad that I lost when I gambled and no one told me I was gonna lose… The only difference between you and I is when I gambled and loss today, it didn’t impact anyone besides me. As much as you want to think I’m taking away money from you or Vinh, this money wouldn’t be yours and so it’s not a loss to you guys. So when you decide you want to take a gamble, make sure you know what’s at stake (not steak). And if you want my input, you can ask, but don’t say I didn’t tell you if you didn’t ask…

How was day 1? Traveling with Vinh is work huh? I was willing to stay home with him so you could enjoy yourself… Anyhow, Annalex are here now. Hopefully they will be able to help you enjoy your trip more. 🙏 

And we’re off ✈️. Well, we’re waiting at the airport to be exact, waiting to take off. I’ve also never been on Spirit, although have we flown it internationally? Do they fly internationally? Can you find Vinh? Anyhow, let’s make the most of this trip. I mean we’re on vacation, we might as well enjoy it. And you really wanted to go. Pray for good memories. 🙏 

I hope you don’t get annoyed when I work outside “regular” hours and that results in needing to make arrangements for Vinh. All in all, I think my work has allowed me a lot more flexibility that it’s asked of me.  Anyhow, I hope we have a good vacation. I’ll do my best to be positive. I gotta get back to work now, gonna be a short day tomorrow since I got a lot of stuff to do for Team Boba. 👋 

I got a settlement from Clear lawsuit. So if you want to eat out you can. Or maybe a massage or something. It’s too bad you didn’t get one too, but I’ll share with you. You’re welcome. Have a nice day.

Thankfully you didn’t crash today. Based on the incident timing, my guess is you were probably texting the group back or not. Unfortunately, the Tesla didn’t record it and I don’t know how to set the Tesla to record everything. In any case. I’m glad nothing happened and no one was hurt. Hopefully this is a moment you can learn from without negative consequences, but you said it yourself, maybe you have to learn the hard way…

Lucas was Lucas. Finley was Finley. Vinh was Vinh. Uyen was Uyen. Danh had to be Danh to survive. It’s hard to be sympathetic when people bring things upon themselves. But we have to try.  All we can do is try to give people grace and hope people give us the same. Lent is over so the period is trying to be better is too maybe, but I hope we can learn to consider others more as we’re choosing our actions. Actions have consequences.

Was it good? I think it was okay. Hope you enjoy your last day with the Howards.  These tacos were very bland. I realize again that if I keep busy, it’s pretty easy to eat less. Something I can probably try to do more of and add in some activities too. That’s good for the health. The season of Lent is ending, hopefully with some positive life changes 🙏,

I forgot why I initially had this title for today’s blog… Oh, it was for good luck with the kids at hot pot. Do I want to go to lunch with you guys 😆. You don’t like eating out with Vinh and you think I want to go?  I’m sorry you guys didn’t enjoy it. I’d still try it, but only if someone else wants to go there. I’m still good work KTown or Tasty Pot…

There’s no debate, Lucas is bad. He asked Vinh to eat his banana and when he didn’t want it, he asked me to hold it and I told him I’m feeding Vinh so go grab a napkin and put it on it. He proceeds to put it on top of a card from the Skippers… When you told Trang the story about Chris’ kid it made me question if I’m doing enough to be restrained with Lucas. And the balance between that and protecting Vinh. Lucas wanted to run out and watch you yelling at Vinh last night and I put my hand in his chest and told him to stay in his room. I regret putting my hand in his chest (it was gentle, but still). No offense but this is not a vacation for anyone except Nick probably…at least Vinh is eating while watching, but Vinh usually eats breakfast fine with me…

Sorry you already got your refund, but at least you don’t have to worry about it. I felt bad that Art took so long to file, I guess there’s a limit of (5) per account so he couldn’t efile. But you snooze you lose. I walked all the way to this pizza place and it was closed for lunch. I was so excited too. So now I’m getting a different pizza place. I hope it’s good, I got the focaccia pizza last time…

Is money spent somewhere else. It never ends, but I’m well aware that we are very blessed to be able to afford it (even if we don’t want to spend on it). Tires can wait, but swimming can’t. I’m glad I went to check before just buying new tires. Will need to check again before the fall and wet weather. I appreciate your frugalness, but I hope you can learn to look at the bigger picture, see who the frugality impacts and become more flexible/intentional about money. 💰 

To celebrate you emptied my balls in a rare afternoon treat with guest over. 🤯 👏 I’d be so happy and relaxed if this happened more often. 🙏  This would be my expression all the time: Then there’s only 2 more needs. Full stomach and clear mind. I can handle the stomach part, but the mind thing we can share. How about it?

Sometimes we have to sacrifice. There was a movie a long time ago called Dangerous Minds and something always stuck with me from the movie. “You always have a choice”. (Waiting for Trang and Co) I make choices and sacrifices because I want to and it’s needed. I try not to put in my vocabulary “I can’t” because “I can try and try harder”. I want Vinh to excel so it breaks my heart when he says he can’t. Same work you. I hope you both “just try it” 🙏 

I’m getting fat today, but the scale says no change. 😆 I’m sorry that things are rough right now, but I know it’ll get better. I hope you enjoy your time with your sister and her kids and Janet and your “vacation week” 🙏.

Another twin themed post today. I’m always gonna care about you. And I guess that means letting you fail sometimes and hoping you learn from it. But know that I don’t want you to fail.  It’s too bad I don’t smoke or drink. I’ll have to drown my sorrow in food. Wish me luck. I wish you luck. TTQD!!!

Maybe you’re right. Let’s find out. You don’t need to change the flight. You don’t need to book a car. Maybe it’ll all work out. Ignorance is bliss. You can bring a camel to water, but you can’t make it drink.  Because I really love you, I pray that you never have to experience any negative consequences and if you do, I hope it’s small like forgetting this water bottle before running the dishwasher. If you do have to experience something, I hope it serves as a motivation to help you prevent negative consequences in the future. Since you didn’t really answer my question, I’ve learned to just be quiet and only offer my thoughts when asked. That’s how I can prevent some negative consequences. 🤔 

If I had to wish for anything from you, that would probably be it. You voted for Trump, you didn’t know the extent of the result, but it’s still your action. Vinh always says “I can’t do it”, but you know he can, so it’s frustrating. I feel that way when you tell me you can’t do something. When your family does something and you let it slide or justify it, you should give the same consideration for people who aren’t your family that do similar things. Lastly, just because you know what you did is wrong, others may not know. They need to know too. Accountability and fairness. Please and thank you. 

I usually save these posts for Vinh, but he got a different one today so you can have it. Thanks for letting me play MJ and golf. Not that it’s a contest or quid pro quo, but I do hope you see I do a lot for Team Boba. Since you have “more” days now, maybe you can use them for Vinh when he can’t be in school. Hopefully my work place will stay flexible, but you never know.

Did you notice? Not “Diner”, but “Dinner” since we had dinner there tonight. Good thing Cane Corner is closed so you don’t need to feel bad about having to decide not to get it. I can’t imagine I paid $30 for breakfast so I wonder how much it cost back then. You didn’t seem too excited about my origami like the server. You okay?

Thanks for giving me some escape each week. I hope you don’t think I don’t do anything. I also hope it’s not asking for much to have a few hours over the weekend to recharge. In the time apart, I think you should think about what we can do to strengthen our relationship. Only then can we be better parents to Vinh. DLLA 🧘 

I think Love Languages are about you. Not me necessarily. I think making your life easier and thoughtful gifts make you feel loved, but maybe I’m wrong.  But for me, when people do things for me or buy me thoughtful stuff, I feel their love. So there you go. If you want me to show my love to you another way, let me know. If you don’t tell me, I can’t know. DLLD…

You should do your own research, but I thought about you when Peter mentioned it. I’ve heard about it before. I’m getting the caffeine version Saturday, but may cut back in case it effects our pregnancy… Is this you? Maybe the non-caffeinated gum will help. I’m more than happy to add it to my acts of giving (love) for you if it does. 🙏 

I took a walk today at work. Behind on my goals, but I wanted to do something active everyday. I needed to get lunch so I ended up here. Not bad, but too heavy. Will try to start walking around the neighborhood too when I’m at home. Gonna try to cut back on carbs which will probably be difficult, along with cutting back on sugar. 🙏 

No joke here sorry. Vinh is really peeing in his pants. Vinh is also really cute and smart too. Those things aren’t mutually exclusive.  What’s also not a joke is me peeling the chicken for you since you liked the skin. You’re welcome. I love you. Hopefully our son will get back on the potty train soon. 🙏