Our Love Story Begins Today

I’m laying in bed, taking a break from work and just thought to myself: “how would I evaluate my marriage?”. I’m sure there are plenty of ways to do so, but the immediate metric that popped into my head is what did I get from marriage that I didn’t have before. Assuming I performed the same or better than before. Ignoring what has been lost and focusing on positives. Like these 2 bobas are very similar, but I waited to buy one from Trader Joe’s, but the other one has been available forever. So far the only thing I can think of is health and dental insurance. But I’ll try to give it more thought. TLG!!!

I’m no longer 40. Sigh. Today the bank teller and coworker wished me happy birthday. I felt bad I didn’t share their enthusiasm. Priorities are currently different know. As are the things I can and can’t do. But I was able to enjoy some things for myself today. It really is the little things we forget about and miss when they’re gone. TLG!!

Although Tuyen emailed me happy belated birthday 😂 Anyhow, tomorrow is the day. At these point, it’s just another day that I didn’t die, which is good. This is the cheapest lamp I saw, but I didn’t think you’d want it for your bedroom. Anyhow, once again, I was unable to get a cupcake, but we did get it one year. Other than that and a dessert from BJs, I don’t think I missed anything. ATEN!!!

Today we got to officially introduce Vinh to the extended family. He’s very popular. Hope it stays that way and it doesn’t go to his head. There’s nothing worse than a spoiled baby. Need to make sure we keep him in check. Gonna be hard, but we can do it. ATEN!!!

Who would have thought the day would come that I’d be too tired to golf? That day hasn’t come yet, but the last 2 rounds has been pretty close to that. And what’s also bad is that I come home physically tired, but my mind is refreshed. This what I’m doing it for. If only more moments were calm like this. Unfortunately, there are many more that are not. 🙏 TTQD!! Z

I’ve lost track of how long we’ve been held hostage. At least we have visitors and he lets us spend time outside the cage. But before we know it, we’re back in our “cells”. Don’t let the Rolex fool you. I’m not free. If I move it’s all over. If I don’t move, it could still be all over. Luckily Han took the landmine off me so I could get back to work. At least I didn’t have jury duty. Someone probably wouldn’t have been too happy and I love jury duty. ATEN!!!

…are bleeding together. Today feels like Friday, but I still have to work tomorrow. It’s gonna be a busy weekend too, but I guess it could be worse. It can always be worse…#blessed Can’t see your crazy eyes sleeping beauty. ATEN!!! Wonder if we’ll ever be not tired anymore…

It’s not gonna be a peaceful meal for us for a long time. Kinda sad. Date nights are now a thing because there’s a third wheel now.  Hope I win the lottery tonight so we can hire help. If he was a little more peaceful it may not be so bad. But then I watched the other table and their kids were older and not that great either. TLG!!!

First world problems. Working to upgrade the internet speed at home. Will cost a little more but hopefully solve any lagging issues. But it seems we’ve just unlocked more first world problems. The current router that is central to the internet signal seems to be too weak sauce. Might need to upgrade that too in order to see maximum potential of internet upgrade. TLG!!!

Post did not post correctly. But other than that and the standard Vinh crying, today was a good day. Sorry this was “late”, but I did do it at work… Here’s the sandwich I had at lunch to prove it 😂 Wanted to go home, but has to wait for Peter. Opted to get something different and found a new Korean spot. Wasn’t bad. Probably go back to Kindred Seoul…TLG!!

That Vinh has been alive. I feel like we’re kind of in a lull where no progress is being made and he’s a little fussier on occasion. But it’s nice that he’s getting older and hopefully more durable and better. And hopefully, we’ll have a little help here and there to make everyone’s lives a little better. ATEN!!

Tony made me some desk hooks. Han asked what you wanted to do while he was here. I agree that Tony may not be a super nanny, I’m sure his intention is to improve our situation in his own way. Need to enjoy this time while we can. Never sure what the future holds. TLG!!!

To raise Vinh on our own, but it’s nice to have good support.  Compliments to the chef. Pretty good. Some more vegetables and maybe cooking a little longer would be perfect. Good flavor, although I think it could be a little more manh, but can’t complain. TTQD!!!

You survived more than 1 hour without any assistance. I’m very proud of you. I knew you could do it. I know we can do it. Sometimes it’s hard and it would be better with more help, but we got this. That’s great artwork. I’m sorry no one else gets to see it. I’m also sorry I didn’t do a better job, but if the canvas is available in the future, I’ll do a better job. ATEN!!!

I’m pretty sure I’ve mention this before, but serenity, as best as we can achieve it, is essential to a good life. It’s difficult, but sometimes it’s better not to stir the waters. Otherwise, a bomb could go off and destroy everything. You can glue a broken plate back together, but it’ll will never be the same. But if you’re Japanese, they’re okay with it. TTQD!!!

Same pose: And same alarms waking everyone up, but the alarm setter still asleep…Congrats to Vinh on graduation. Hope the degree comes. Onto graduate studies with the physical therapist. Let’s hope this all works sooner than later for everyone’s sanity. ATEN!!

They keep saying it gets better. I can’t tell if it really does or if we just get used to it… Today was a www for me making him 🩸. He also had a few meltdowns today, but he also had a few moments of “calm”. I’m glad you’re able to feel more rested as well. Hopefully, this is where it gets easier for realsies. TTQD!!

Is Sunday gonna be a fun day? Saturday was a nice change. I was tired, but when I did get to rest, I felt refreshed until the early evening… But it looks like it helped you out so I’m glad I am able  to switch for the weekend. I wouldn’t mind the shift normally if it wasn’t for work. ATEN!!!

It’s the weekend. Oddly, I still sense the days of the week, but it’s probably cause I still do work. Since it’s the weekend, we’re gonna try a swap. I take the night shift. I probably should have planned ahead and took a nap. I hope it’s a successful experiment. Not sleeping for Vinh is definitely different than not sleeping for golf. And Vinh is everyday. Golf is one day. TLG!!

I guess I never realized until now that I like running errands. I think it’s a combination of doing different  things, getting out and about, and crossing things off to do lists. While Em has given me more freedom, this 8 pound ball and chain has made it much more difficult to do things. 😠 while I don’t expect to be back to pre-Vinh times next Friday, I am hoping to be able to get around  little more 🙏. TLG!!!

It’s been almost a month and we still haven’t figured a good plan. I’m gonna try to sleep earlier and get up earlier and pretend I’m getting ready for work.  This is Gavin sleeping in his room. Such a big bed for a little boy. I put the La Vang Mary in his room. Just thought someone should be watching over him. Not sure if you wanted someone else to. ATEN. Sorry you pee your pants a lot. www.

I wish you could get more sleep, but if you want to pump, pump, pump it up, that’s gonna be a problem. I feel bad, but there isn’t really a need for both parents to be up unless it’s absolutely necessary. We really need to sleep when we can. It’ll be nice to have help soon, but eventually, it’s just gonna be us. I hope by then, he’ll be better, but should prepare for the worst. TLG!!!

It wouldn’t be so bad as long as the appointments are helping, but I’m not so sure. I’m just gonna try and remain positive and hopeful.  I wonder if I would have been lighter before eating dinner. Although I have had coffee and water so who knows. So far, the only positive since birth. I’d rather be fat and have an easy son. 😂 TLG!!!

I guess he doesn’t realize the good life he has, but then again he has nothing to compare it to. Hopefully the osteopathic appt puts him on the right path. 🙏  I guess his fussiness is manageable, but definitely not easy. Hoping you can get more sleep. Hopefully the easier everyone keeps talking about will be coming soon. TLGS!!!

I guess in the greater scheme of things, yesterday  wasn’t really worst than the day before. I just think the effects of being parents is adding up. Someone wants to fly Anna here for a weekend… I’m sure we could find closer alternatives. But that would require someone to compromise on their desires. We’ll see where this goes. STLG!!! 😂 

I just saw a video clip where Steve Harvey said that once you get married, you can’t let anyone else into your relationship. You created a 2 handed circle with the person and letting anyone in will mess that up. There was a clip before that where this guy says him and his wife only have friends who support their relationship. Anyone that doesn’t support their relationship they’re not friends with. In general I get the concept, because other people can negatively influence your decisions. And ultimately, you got to do what is best for you. This is a picture of a circle and some balls. Vinh is outside our circle, but he’s trying to break in. TLG!!!

Someone else finally got to sleep with Vinh. Someone else got to utilize their Google Photo editing options. Looks like a Nguyen-Uyen. 😂. Anyhow, hopefully he’ll learn to be comfortable with you so the evenings aren’t a struggle. Everyone keeps saying it gets better. We’re still waiting. TLG!!!

I’m starting to think that babies are anti-efficiency. Seems like Vinh won’t let me do anything efficient. Like he’s sleeping, but I have to hold him. He’s smiling cause he knows he’s causing me grief and there’s nothing I can do about it short of dropping him. I just pray he gets better. Although I’m not really sure what’s considered better versus normal. I know we don’t have crazy problems, but could we have less problems? TLG!!!

It’s confirmed. The future will be one of eternal conflict. A desire to strangle and swaddle Vinh. Or he might try to suffocate himself. But today we all survived. So let us take a moment to thank God for the gift of life for us all. And pray for “it gets better” that everyone keeps talking about. TTQD!!

Probably not what one would think about when it comes to “home cooking”, but I finally got to eat something I wanted. Noodz and milk tea. Both made from home. Sadly I found the noodz to be underwhelming and the milk tea was satisfactory, but it did allow me to empty the coffee jelly. #mariekondo I also got some errands done today, which is sort of another definition of “home cooking”, albeit a stretch. Just a little nostalgia in a post-Vinh world. ATEN (even though Em is very sweaty)!!!

Some might call it unconditional love. I just call it unconditional. We have something we are now unconditionally responsible for. I’m not quite sure if I love him or not, but I am sure that I’ll do whatever I can to give him the best chance at life. Getting my money’s worth for the Google One. 😂. ATEN!!!